God's Grace And Same-Sex Relationship And Marriage

Is there a place for homosexuals in God's Kingdom?

What does the Bible teach concerning same-sex relationship and marriage?

How should a Christian respond to the issues of homosexuality and same-sex marriage?

Is it okay to be gay as a believer in God's universal grace and love?

How does God view lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders?

How should a Christian believer relate with the LGBT community?

These are some of the most frequently asked questions among Christians since the nationwide approval of same-sex marriage in United States of America, the UK and many other parts of the world.

Interestingly, we can find answers to every one of these questions from the Bible. God in His infinite wisdom and love made that available for us.

Regardless of where you are reading this from (Africa, Europe, Asia and so on), I'd like to plead with you to set aside your cultural or religious beliefs for a moment and let the light of the glorious gospel of Jesus shine on you.

What Does The Bible Teach Concerning Same-sex Marriage?

First of all, there is practically no direct mention of "same-sex marriage" in the Bible. The Bible talked about same-sex sexual relations, for instance a man having carnal knowledge of another man, but it didn't specifically mention the issue of marriage between both.

This is because the practice of people of the same gender getting married was alien to the culture of the Jewish people. A people from whom God chose individuals He used in writing the Bible.

However, though the Bible didn't directly talk about same-sex marriage, it did give us a clue on how to go about it today via numerous instructions on sexual relations between people of the same gender. 

You all know that the primary binding factor in marriage is sexual relations. Marriage cannot be marriage without that. So we can take a clue from what the Bible said concerning homosexuality, to draw conclusions on same-sex marriage.

I hope this is clear. Now let's go on to see what the Bible said concerning the subject matter, having laid the necessary basic foundation.

Let's start with the Old Testament and then progress to the New.

The Old Testament

The first account of anything homosexual in the Bible is found in the story of Lot, his angelic visitors and the men of Sodom in Gen 19:4-13.

Genesis 19 (KJV)

4 But before they lay down, the men of the city, even the men of Sodom, compassed the house round, both old and young, all the people from every quarter:
5 And they called unto Lot, and said unto him, Where are the men which came in to thee this night? bring them out unto us, that we may know them.
6 And Lot went out at the door unto them, and shut the door after him,
7 And said, I pray you, brethren, do not so wickedly.
8 Behold now, I have two daughters which have not known man; let me, I pray you, bring them out unto you, and do ye to them as is good in your eyes: only unto these men do nothing; for therefore came they under the shadow of my roof.
9 And they said, Stand back. And they said again, This one fellow came in to sojourn, and he will needs be a judge: now will we deal worse with thee, than with them. And they pressed sore upon the man, even Lot, and came near to break the door.
10 But the men put forth their hand, and pulled Lot into the house to them, and shut to the door.
11 And they smote the men that were at the door of the house with blindness, both small and great: so that they wearied themselves to find the door.
12 And the men said unto Lot, Hast thou here any besides? son in law, and thy sons, and thy daughters, and whatsoever thou hast in the city, bring them out of this place:
13 For we will destroy this place, because the cry of them is waxen great before the face of the LORD; and the LORD hath sent us to destroy it.

A closer attention to the verses we just read shows that prior to the judgement by the angels, the practice was already a norm in Sodom and has even spread to the neighbouring country, Gomorrah.

In order to stop this from spreading any further pending the official coming of the Law, the angels had to come up with this type of punishment.

Hundreds of years later, the same angels inspired Moses to put into writing instructions that should guide the lifestyles of the Jews.

A few of those instructions centred on homosexuality.

Lev 18:22 KJV Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

Lev 20:13 KJV If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

Based on these instructions and the punishment in Genesis 19, it is clear that the Old Testament scriptures of the Bible forbid a man to be in a sexual relationship with another man. And that includes marriage.

The New Testament

Going over to the New Testament, we also find the disciples talk about it. Though not as loud as in the Old Testament.

There are 3 major places the Bible addressed the issue of homosexuality in the New Testament. Let's take a quick look at them below.

Rom 1:26-28 KJV 26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. 28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient

1Co 6:9-10 KJV 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

1Ti 1:9-10 KJV 9 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, 10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine.

In Romans 1:26-28, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 and 1 Timothy 1:9-10, the Bible ranked homosexuality among several sins that exist on earth today.

As a result of that, we know that it is not biblically OK for a Christian to remain gay for the rest of his life or enter into same-sex marriage.

Same-sex marriage is definitely not God's will for the believer even in this dispensation of grace.

If a believer finds out he is sexually attracted to people of the same gender, the first thing he should do is feed his mind with what the Bible teaches about it. As he meditates on that for days, it will begin to renew his mindset and gradually crush the desire from within him.

Aside from that, he should stay with the Lord in the place of prayer, asking for his grace to help him live in line with the Word and establish godly relationships. In this same place of prayer, he must take authority against the spirit of lust, the same spirit that inspires strange urges in humans. This sort of prayer is usually not done passively.

Lastly, he must put a conscious effort into avoiding being in places where the temptation to indulge in it will arise. He must also make up his mind to avoid publications, teachings, movies and songs that promote the act.

Is There A Place For Homosexuals In God's Kingdom? Does God's Grace Apply To Gays?

The beautiful thing about the grace of God brought to us by Jesus Christ, is that it accepts and saves us just as we are. Regardless of our sexual orientation or any other thing. It opens the doors of God's Kingdom to us and invites us to walk in freely, provided we put our faith in Jesus as our Saviour.

Eph 2:8-9 KJV

8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.

Our Salvation as Christians is not dependent on our sexual orientation, our actions or inactions. It's not based on how perfectly we have lived our lives. It's practically based on our Faith in the sacrifice of Jesus, once and for all.

If we believe that Jesus died because of our sins, was buried and rose again for our justification, then we are saved. If we believe not, then we are doomed eternally. Even our best behaviours cannot get us into God's Kingdom.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son. That whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

So Yes, there's a place in God's Kingdom for homosexuals who repented. Same way there's a place for fornicators, adulterers, thieves, liars, gossips etc, who believed in Christ Jesus and became brand new creatures in Him. The Grace of God is not only for the "Straight" people. It is also extended to every member of the LGBT community.

They simply have to acknowledge same-sex relationship as sin and not just a mere sexual orientation. Just like other sexual sins in the Bible. It is a sin because the Bible said it is.

Having done that, then they ask the Lord into their lives as their Saviour and Lord. From there, the Spirit of God will start working on their insides, helping them to get rid of those desires they do not want anymore and to have a better and sweet relationship with the Father.

How Should The Church And Christians Respond To The Issues Of Homosexuality And Same-Sex Marriage Today?

The first is to realize that regardless of a person's sexual orientation or relationship, God loves them unconditionally. Without any conditions or strings attached. God views lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgenders same way He views every other person on earth and invites them to come into His loving embrace through Faith in Jesus.

This knowledge helps keep your heart in check. So you don't end up developing hatred for anyone who identifies as gay. Love, the Bible says, covers a multitude of wrongs.

You can fight against homosexuality without directly fighting against the homosexuals. Extend the love of God to them, but also make it clear that you stand on where the Bible stand concerning same-sex relationship or marriage.

That is what Jesus would have done today. He was called a friend of sinners due to how He related with them. However, though He never condemned the sinners in His days on earth, not once did He condole their sin. I believe we should do likewise.

If you are living in a state or country where same-sex marriage is legal, apply wisdom in how you relate with individuals who identifies as gay.

Never discriminate, disrespect or become hostile towards them. God's greatest power is displayed in love and grace, not hostility or violence.

However, in all you do, never ever compromise your faith. Someday, we shall all appear before the presence of our Master, Jesus to give the accounts of our lives. And I personally think it's better to come to Him unashamed! I know you think so too.

So for now, that's all there is about God's grace and same-sex relationship and marriage.

I hope this blessed you.

Glory to God!

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